WHY I DON'T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINGS EXCEPT FOR HER
Q: She was the only woman who understood me for how troubled I am and wasn't frightened by it. Her father was a troubled man and he died a year after we started dating. She knew how to disarm me when I got upset at her, and would usually diffuse the situation by saying "Look, I don't want to argue." When I would get upset or frustrated about other things, she was always there to comfort me and console me. Most women freak out and run away whenever I show how troubled I am or get upset. She was so incredibly understanding. She understood me in a way no one else ever will. I can't ever replace that connection. I just wish I could hear from her again. A: That level of safety—where you didn't have to hide the darkest, heaviest, or most complicated parts of who you are—is ridiculously rare. When someone looks at the turbulence inside you and doesn't flinch, panic, or run, it creates an anchor unlike anything else. Because of her own life and her father, she h...