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WHY GETTING FIRED IS NOT A DEATH SENTENCE

If I offered you $100 today, but told you that you could have $10,000 if you pass on the $100, and just wait for two years. That's all you have to do. Simply wait. Many people will take the $100. Because they are impatient, and incapable of thinking beyond this current moment. This test that was notoriously given to toddlers in the Stanford Marshmellow Experiment. Children were given a marshmellow and told they would be given two marshmellows if they waited until the researcher returned without eating the first marshmellow. Only about a third of the children waited for the researcher to return. The majority just ate that one marshmellow and then looked sad when the researcher returned without a second one. " Follow-up studies suggested children who waited were more successful in school (higher SAT scores), possessed better stress management, had lower BMIs, and had better social skills later in life." I know a guy who has been fired from more than half of the jobs he ha...
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FORMER NHL PLAYER DANIEL CARCILLO TALKS ABOUT ABUSE

On experiencing abuse: "When you're singularly focused on a goal, it's kind of scary what you'll accept in order to achieve that goal." / "It's amazing how you can bury emotional trauma and not even think about it and then something as simple as reading a paper or reading about somebody else's abuse can trigger all of these emotions and imagery... it's so vivid, you're right back in it."

On his rookie season in the Ontario Hockey League: "It was supposed to be the best year of my life and the culmination of my dreams and all my hard work and... we had to endure that abuse... it was something that I thought was normal and that everybody else was going through because I was told by my abusers..."

On seeing coaches participate in abuse: "it told me that I had nobody to turn to... to tell this type of stuff to... to tell these guys what we were going through."

On hazing in hockey culture: "I love the game of hockey. The game of hockey. I don't like hockey culture." / "It's almost like a ritual that you have to go through... hazing's abuse, and abuse is abuse. And if you're getting abused, you have to be able to find somebody that you can confide in and tell them about it, don't suppress it as long as I did."


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